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“CURSE” OF THE BAD HAIRCUT

“CURSE” OF THE BAD HAIRCUT

How could a bad haircut put a curse on your life? Well of course it couldn’t but it could put a dent in your enjoyment of one day or two perhaps the entire week just by the way you focus on it… Just by the way you refuse to acknowledge that it is a very temporary setback and your hair will grow out again… Just by refusing to believe and realize that ultimately you will have a second chance at successful grooming!

Isn’t it odd the way our self-talk can go? “I just know my husband (or wife) won’t like this mess of a haircut. This is just a disaster!  Now how can I go to a job interview looking like this?” We do tend to obsess over things that are so fleeting and basically no big deal.

Why did I start by using a haircut as the subject of my musings? Simply because with a rather insignificant event sometimes it is easier to understand and admit what many times we do to sabotage our own joy. Just as easily I could have used the example of his fancy formal shirt ruined by a wine spill or the elegant dress that shrank to doll-size in the wash. Even if all three things had happened they would not be enough to actually ruin a life!

It is important to realize that any discomforting event will eventually be past history. The quicker we are willing to maintain a positive focus while accepting things as they are right now, the sooner things will change for the better. Holding on for dear life to misery, continually feeding it more energy, just creates more misery and emotional upheaval.

To look at it in a different way, what you resist persists. There is no getting around the fact that the more we push against the existing circumstances, refusing to accept them, the longer they seem to stay with us. The more we hold tight to our unhappy feelings, the more miserable we become.

All of this does not suggest that you should not take corrective action when it is called for but it should be done with a feeling of allowing things to work out in their appropriate timing. Force brings about opposing force. The more we demand situations to change this instant the harder, denser and more unmovable they become.

On any issues larger than a haircut for instance it is perfectly normal to be upset over the loss of a friendship or the passing of a pet. In such circumstances we simply need to limit the amount of time we allocate to grieving and begin to put energy into more progressive pursuits. Such heartfelt losses need not be allowed to ruin endless weeks and months. There will always be other people who will be grateful for your friendship. There will always be loving pets needing you.

I actually have seen people go into mild depression over the fact that their favorite automobile was no longer repairable, simply could not function and had to be “retired”. Life is too precious to waste any of it in ongoing regret or self-recrimination of any kind. I “could have” or “should have” never solves anything.

Each one of us is here on earth to use our wonderful God given gifts and talents while learning our life lessons. If we are to fulfill our destiny we need to pursue our life paths with determined optimism and joy. It is difficult to be productive if we are continually looking over our shoulders at past unhappiness or reviewing current difficulties over and over again.

Think of it this way: one plan didn’t work, but there are other options; the home you wanted was already sold, but there will be a better one; your friend moved away, but you can ease your next door neighbor’s loneliness with a few moments of your company while at the same time making your own feelings lighter in the process.

Keep looking on the bright side and your personal light will shine brighter not only for your benefit but for others. There is never a good reason to concentrate on what you do not want. Look instead to what you can do right now this moment to access your inner joy.

When you can find a reason to be thankful, to be grateful for anything at all, it is much easier to get into your joy. And when you are joyful you will find positive creative ideas will come so easily. Being in joyful gratitude gives you added energy to carry out those tasks that are calling for your special abilities. I believe that each one of you my readers is capable of greatness!

If you need a little help in keeping your thinking on a positive track while stopping all the worrisome “detours”, give me a call. Hypnosis is a quick and effective way to restructure your habitual thinking. With some hypnotherapy you will find yourself believing in “possibilities” rather than “problems”. Inculcating or installing a positive attitude with the help of your subconscious mind allows you to access clearer thinking and simpler solutions to life’s stumbling blocks.

Call Reverend Lois Cheney today for your private hypnosis appointment or psychic consultation.

(928)300-2030 or e-mail RevLois@gmail.com

 

CONCERN: YES! WORRY: NO!

It is reasonable to “concern” ourselves with situations requiring our attention. It is even better to “consider” possible solutions to improve conditions. It is when we “worry” about every little and big thing that we actually make it worse.

It really is a matter of paying attention to our choice of words. Many times we spend hours worrying on the future, things that may or may not happen. Some of those worries are huge, others not so much.

Unless there is a definite action one can take on these worries, it is useless to continually burden ourselves with them. For instance the presidential election, we worried this one would win and that one wouldn’t. The only thing we could do is vote and urge others to do the same.  Worry whether mental or spoken didn’t solve anything.

On a lighter vein, is it really necessary to “worry” about what we are going to wear to a particular party or celebration? It would seem much more logical to consider how formal or casual the party will be and simply pick an outfit from that conclusion.

Why do I focus on words and phrases? As a clinical hypnotist I know your subconscious mind is listening all the time, 24 hours nonstop. If your subconscious hears “worry” a number of times, it takes you at your word. It believes that worry is what you want. In other words it will give you more things to worry about.

Worry + Worry + Worry = compounded Fear!

Could it be that is what was meant by the old saying: “He is just worrying himself to death”?

After all the eventual result of all this fear filled worrying can be an unpleasant effect in your physical body and emotions. In other words worry can create disease of a variety of kinds.

My suggestion is to pay attention to your words, pay attention to your thoughts. If you catch yourself saying or even thinking detrimental things to yourself or others, back up! Do a reverse. It is easy to phrase things in a much more positive way. For instance instead of saying “I feel sick”, how about “I have felt better and I am healing.” “Sick” creates what you don’t want. “Better” and “healing” give you the desired conditions.

Once you make friends with your subconscious mind by feeding it only positive words, your life will improve. It is a little tricky at first. We all entertain imbedded old patterns. But once you get in the habit of catching and correcting the damaging negative words, it is a fun and certainly beneficial game.

As a certified clinical hypnotist my work is to assist your subconscious and you get on the most positive, life-affirming track possible. Call or e-mail and let’s discuss your challenges and your desires for improvement.

Reverend Lois Cheney cCHT

RevLois@gmail.com (928)300-2030