Category Archives: HAPPY

“CURSE” OF THE BAD HAIRCUT

“CURSE” OF THE BAD HAIRCUT

How could a bad haircut put a curse on your life? Well of course it couldn’t but it could put a dent in your enjoyment of one day or two perhaps the entire week just by the way you focus on it… Just by the way you refuse to acknowledge that it is a very temporary setback and your hair will grow out again… Just by refusing to believe and realize that ultimately you will have a second chance at successful grooming!

Isn’t it odd the way our self-talk can go? “I just know my husband (or wife) won’t like this mess of a haircut. This is just a disaster!  Now how can I go to a job interview looking like this?” We do tend to obsess over things that are so fleeting and basically no big deal.

Why did I start by using a haircut as the subject of my musings? Simply because with a rather insignificant event sometimes it is easier to understand and admit what many times we do to sabotage our own joy. Just as easily I could have used the example of his fancy formal shirt ruined by a wine spill or the elegant dress that shrank to doll-size in the wash. Even if all three things had happened they would not be enough to actually ruin a life!

It is important to realize that any discomforting event will eventually be past history. The quicker we are willing to maintain a positive focus while accepting things as they are right now, the sooner things will change for the better. Holding on for dear life to misery, continually feeding it more energy, just creates more misery and emotional upheaval.

To look at it in a different way, what you resist persists. There is no getting around the fact that the more we push against the existing circumstances, refusing to accept them, the longer they seem to stay with us. The more we hold tight to our unhappy feelings, the more miserable we become.

All of this does not suggest that you should not take corrective action when it is called for but it should be done with a feeling of allowing things to work out in their appropriate timing. Force brings about opposing force. The more we demand situations to change this instant the harder, denser and more unmovable they become.

On any issues larger than a haircut for instance it is perfectly normal to be upset over the loss of a friendship or the passing of a pet. In such circumstances we simply need to limit the amount of time we allocate to grieving and begin to put energy into more progressive pursuits. Such heartfelt losses need not be allowed to ruin endless weeks and months. There will always be other people who will be grateful for your friendship. There will always be loving pets needing you.

I actually have seen people go into mild depression over the fact that their favorite automobile was no longer repairable, simply could not function and had to be “retired”. Life is too precious to waste any of it in ongoing regret or self-recrimination of any kind. I “could have” or “should have” never solves anything.

Each one of us is here on earth to use our wonderful God given gifts and talents while learning our life lessons. If we are to fulfill our destiny we need to pursue our life paths with determined optimism and joy. It is difficult to be productive if we are continually looking over our shoulders at past unhappiness or reviewing current difficulties over and over again.

Think of it this way: one plan didn’t work, but there are other options; the home you wanted was already sold, but there will be a better one; your friend moved away, but you can ease your next door neighbor’s loneliness with a few moments of your company while at the same time making your own feelings lighter in the process.

Keep looking on the bright side and your personal light will shine brighter not only for your benefit but for others. There is never a good reason to concentrate on what you do not want. Look instead to what you can do right now this moment to access your inner joy.

When you can find a reason to be thankful, to be grateful for anything at all, it is much easier to get into your joy. And when you are joyful you will find positive creative ideas will come so easily. Being in joyful gratitude gives you added energy to carry out those tasks that are calling for your special abilities. I believe that each one of you my readers is capable of greatness!

If you need a little help in keeping your thinking on a positive track while stopping all the worrisome “detours”, give me a call. Hypnosis is a quick and effective way to restructure your habitual thinking. With some hypnotherapy you will find yourself believing in “possibilities” rather than “problems”. Inculcating or installing a positive attitude with the help of your subconscious mind allows you to access clearer thinking and simpler solutions to life’s stumbling blocks.

Call Reverend Lois Cheney today for your private hypnosis appointment or psychic consultation.

(928)300-2030 or e-mail RevLois@gmail.com

 

THE RIGHT ONE!

THE RIGHT MAN, THE RIGHT WOMAN?

As a psychic I am frequently asked is this new love or friend the “right” one for me. Usually followed by another question: will it last. Tricky questions only because we tend to attract to ourselves those people that we need to learn from and not so much the ones that are easy to be with and enjoy. We attract to us a man or woman who has something to teach us. That is not always a fun or pleasantly exciting experience.

If we are “shopping” for a soul mate it is wise to decide before taking the plunge what sort of person we need to be or what we need to heal in ourselves in order to attract the sort of person we desire. Are we clouding or limiting our opportunities by not addressing one of our own overriding (not so pleasant) personality traits.  In other words to make an example of the extreme: if we are into ourselves so much that we could be called excessively selfish, we need not expect to find an open and generous soulmate.

To have a happy “coupling” we many times need to spend time working on ourselves. If we are happy with ourselves and our interactions with others, chances are other folks will notice and be attracted. It comes back to being honest, kind and friendly.

Then there is the obvious stuff: If he likes to sky dive and you are afraid of heights! If she wants to live in Hawaii and you only like the desert. Best step away! Physical attraction is great but if that is all there is… Metaphorically none of us really like to fall head first in the mud.

Having said all of that about relationships, as a psychic, yes, I can tell you whether a particular relationship has the prospect of lasting for an appreciable length of time. I can go even further and delve into whether it will be satisfying for either or both of you. If you want to know  I can see if you have shared past lives as well.

For those of you who are still wandering, wondering or just plain looking, I suggest you try something brand new, an adventure! For instance have you tried an oil painting class? Could you learn competition swimming? In other words get into different environments, meet different people with differing ideas. Sometimes we seem to get stuck in our repetitive activities and never encounter a new idea or a new person. Get innovative. See what and who might be “out there”.

We all like feeling comfortable, at ease, but a little innovation caused discomfort can push us to see things in a different and maybe better light. There is always more than one way to solve or investigate anything in life. Have fun. Try something new. Enjoy the ride.

If you would like accurate answers to any of your life questions, I am ready to help. Call or e-mail now. I will work for you by telephone or at my home in my beautiful healing room in south Rogers Arkansas.

Reverend Lois Cheney (928)300-2030 or RevLois@gmail.com

OUR BOO BOO AND “TOMORROW”


Boo Boo is our little mixed breed dog. Yes, she is overweight at 14 pounds (our fault for over indulging her) but nevertheless a real love. I was talking to her this morning and petting her.

I wanted to tell her that in just a few short days the movers will come to load up many of our things for Arkansas. What we didn’t want to take of the furniture would go to charity. You see Boo Boo is very possessive of her things. It is her couch, her eating chair, her special pillow etc. I admit she is terribly spoiled. We treat her like our own little girl. Of course I wanted her to know that there would be a new couch for her to lounge on, even though things were changing, she would have everything she needed.

So while I am trying to explain all this to her, I suddenly realized that dogs have absolutely no concept of “future”. They live totally in the moment: “I have food, I have water or I don’t. Or I need to go out.” So how could I tell her that tomorrow she will have a big grass yard to bury her bones? How could I explain that the lower altitude in Rogers Arkansas would feel better on her hurt foot?

The very best I could do was to keep her close to me and warm. I would be careful not to let any of her special sleeping blankets or pillows get away. I would keep as much of the familiar things close at hand as I could and hope that would be enough. Her comfort is important to me and my partner Jacob.

With all of this I began to think how much better we people might be if we were able to enjoy each one of the “now” moments. If we could be aware of what wonderful things and people we have in our lives in this minute, wouldn’t we be happier? But no, instead of enjoying what we have, when we have it, we are always wandering off with our thoughts into future possibilities where life would be better.

You can be sure that I do as much future planning as anyone. To progress with relationships, work, or play, we need our visions. The immutable laws of attraction and positive energy projection are wonderfully powerful tools. At the same time, it seems more joyous overall to allow also moments through the day to remain conscious of each breath of the beautiful and flowing “now”.

It is for our own healthy living to remind ourselves that this moment in time is important. Every minute of every day is a gift and an opportunity. You are blessed with this earth experience. Live, love and feel with strength and intention.

Rev. Lois Cheney
www.PrescottPsychicMedium.com
RevLois@gmail.com

IF A SINGLE MATCH…

IF A SINGLE MATCH….
If a single match can drive out the darkness in a room, how much more powerful is the “Light” of one illumined person?

Can you by shining your Light release the darkness of negativity or conflict in any situation that presents itself? Could each of as hopeful enlightened souls decide to step away from harsh judgments and instead offer our blessings?

Many times we speak of the desire for peace in our lives and our world. Is it not up to us then to be at peace? Let the words we speak and the thoughts we think be filled with love and gratitude.

Think for a moment about our personal close relationships. Think about our family, intimate friends. Do we allow those people to have ideas that are different from ours? Do we let them express their thoughts without voicing our criticism? Let us remember that there is always more than one way to successfully approach life’s varied challenges.

In addition to be more accepting of our friends and family, let us step away, look away, from the harshness of the news media. Decide to take a lengthy vacation from the bad news of papers and televised disasters. Realize the exaggeration of unhealthy events simply is amplified to draw attention for the purpose of selling a product!

Instead of unhappy reading and viewing, bring your imagination to what is good and desirable. Create with intention. Tap your own latent power with the help of your powerful high self, guides and angels. We are all needed and able to create a better, happier, more positively productive world.

Reverend Lois Cheney
RevLois@gmail.com
(928)300-2030

DOLDRUMS OUT! SUNSHINE IN!

Looks to me like this is a day for positive affirmation! Let’s get our spirits soaring. What could you do to get that “top of the world” feeling?  Dance? Hike a mountain? Call a dear friend?

Maybe this will help. Are any of you into old recordings? If so, you may remember the vocal style of Karen Carpenter. Here a few of the words to one of her beautiful numbers: “Sing, sing a song…sing it loud, sing it strong. Don’t worry that it’s not good enough for anyone else to hear, just sing, sing a song”.

Occasionally it seems we have to fool ourselves with a little trickery to improve the mood of our day. Why not? An elevated joyous mood brings creativity. Creativity can manifest itself as all manner of wonderful things, perhaps even a miracle, large or small!

Through the years I have used hundreds of memorized affirmations. Sometimes I would shout them out loud just to “wake me up”. I offer you a few of those that have served me well:

*I am vibrant, strong, healthy, prosperous and happy.

*I see the highest and best in all people.

*The universe is showering me with dynamic gifts of Spirit.

*I am a money magnet, my income increases daily.

*This is my Best Day yet.

*All things are working together for good in my life now.

*I love all people and all people love me.

Feel free to use these thoughts and words daily or begin creating your own. If you need new employment for instance, you might try something like “I attract my perfect job at the perfect pay.”

If your need is for more friends perhaps “I am a warm, happy, friendly person and I attract other warm, happy friendly people.”

When you are happy and reaching out to the world, you will find the world moves in mysterious ways to give you even more fulfilling situations and events.

In a recent class I attended, a suggestion was made for making other folks happy while making yourself likeable. When the moment seems right with a sales clerk or even your boss, try this: “Do you know what I like about you?” Follow that question with something completely honest such as: “You are always willing to help” or “You have the most beautiful smile”

I promise you will be amazed at the reactions you get by just making that small effort to point out to a friend or stranger one of their likeable attributes. Just the fact that you cared enough to notice will make you seem special. The energy response is guaranteed to warm your heart and theirs. In that moment you have made two happy people.

On the matter of affirmations, I want to mention that if you ever run out of ideas, please check one of Catherine Ponders’ books. She is an absolute master of positive words, thoughts, and actions! Another handy source for good affirmations is the book room of any local Unity Church. The founders, Charles and Myrtle Fillmore, gained glowing good health using affirmations and blessings for their physical bodies.

You cannot go “over the top” with dynamic good words for you and your loved ones. It may seem like a huge stretch of imagination at first when you tell yourself how good things are, but sometimes that is what is needed to push away old negative thought patterns.

Remember that you are special, talented, and deserving of the very best this lifetime has to offer. Just keep telling yourself: “I am capable of anything I can imagine or believe” because you are!

As you affirm positive events for yourself, new ideas will arrive. You will find yourself making more spontaneous and effective decisions. It may even feel like a new life that you are creating for yourself, one day at a time.

I care about each and every one of you. For each one of you, I visualize your complete success on your unique path and a lifetime of spiritual growth.

My work as a psychic and spiritual counselor allows me to meet many wonderful people. I am truly blessed to be able to work with others in this way.

If you would like a private session with me, just call my Prescott Arizona study. I can arrange an appointment in person or by telephone. Bring any questions on any subject that you wish answered. Each session is carefully recorded on cassette for you future review.

Call Reverend Lois at (928)300-2030 or E-Mail: RevLois@gmail.com. All counseling is strictly confidential.