Many of my clients suffer from their remembered personal mistakes, hurtful criticism from others or similarly harsh memories. Living with the memories of such tightly held negative experiences can keep them stuck in emotional and mental pain, unable to move forward with their desires on their life path.
Worse yet is our tendency as humans to not only remember the bad times but to make these memories even worse with embellishment! In other words not only do we remember he said this, she said that but we begin amplifying it: “I am sure they told everyone I know. No one will ever forgive me…” On and on it goes until the original event has become nearly global in the memory effect’s intensity!
We need to find a way to let the past be over and done in order to move on and enjoy our own lives. Part of the solution is to see absolutely everything as having been an opportunity to learn. All the things that have happened to any of us have brought us to be who we are today in this now moment. Let’s reframe those seemingly bad experiences as life education and needed information.
When I work with someone in hypnosis before I begin I ask a lot of questions. I need to know how I can help them remember their experiences in the most positive way possible. My belief is we need to view all events as either good (“I learned a lot by that!”) or very good (“I now know how to handle it the next time something similar happens”).
If we can eliminate viewing anything as devastating or horrible, we have a “leg up” to making progress. Instead of trying to live it down let us try living it up. Let those events and experiences be a positive. Why and how a positive? Simply acknowledging the instructions it gave us. We now know better ways of dealing with similar events and do not need to return to any hurtful, negative ways of handling life events and the resulting difficult memories.
If your personal self-esteem has been damaged by any life events and you would like to move forward with your life desires in a positive and assured way, call me today. Your successful living and progress is my priority. You do not need to be stuck. Let me set a personal private appointment to help you with any seeming roadblocks.
Reverend Lois Cheney (928)300-2030 or RevLois@gmail.com