NEW YEAR’S “LITTLE BITES”

NEW YEAR’S “LITTLE BITES”

Oh yes, those New Year’s resolutions. We all make-um, we all break-um. If we are totally focused maybe, just maybe, we stay with it till mid-January.

Let’s do it differently this year. Feel free to make all the huge all-encompassing mind blowing resolutions for your desired life changes but then: break them down into manageable little action steps, just some little bites.

For instance let’s say you feel heavy and you want to lose 30 pounds of body weight. Instead resolve to eliminate 3 pounds with each passing week. It isn’t such a terrible frightening goal as the entire 30 pounds. It is attainable without having to constantly worry and fight the battle of the whole amount.

Perhaps you have decided that you would be happier living in another location. Instead of packing your bags on January first, simply resolve to begin researching the possibilities in as many locations as attract you. You might order maps, populations numbers, locations of stores that you feel necessary, cost of rents etc.

Let’s admit it there is something about the start of a brand new year that sometimes causes us (metaphorically) to jump overboard. Breathe! Decide what your optimum end result would be and work backward from there.

If I truly want result “Z” what would I need to do first, what action should I take to accomplish steps “Y” and “X”? Or if I have not build any platform leading up to accomplishing “Z” should I go all the way back to “A”?

I promise you will feel much more in control if you will just outline and put in writing the small actions that lead up to your desired large result. You are more likely to stay the course and obtain the ultimate winning goal by taking action on those “little bites”.

As a certified clinical hypnotist I have helped many clients obtain life-affirming and gratifying results by guiding them one important step at a time. Is there a beautiful change you would like to make for 2017? Do you want this year to be the best one ever? Let’s plan together. I am here to help you.

Reverend Lois Cheney

RevLois@gmail.com

BREATHE FOR EXPANSION!

When I have clients who are stressed I many times suggest that they concentrate on their breathing. Bringing in more air deeper into the body while paying attention to slowing the inflow, and then being mindful of the subsequent release of air, almost without exception will bring anyone into a more peaceful meditative space.

Unnecessary, unproductive stress by itself can cause so much damage to the physical body as well as to the mind and emotions. Reducing that kind of stress without the use of prescriptions or over the counter medications is highly desirable.

What happens as we concentrate on slowing and giving attention to our breathing is the mind stops its incessant chatter. A person is physically relaxed by using breathing at a more expansive and slower rate. The added advantage is that using that kind of breathing causes the constant mind circling to stop while good ideas are given space to flow in as worries recede.

Using breath as a bridge to the ideas and positive healing input of the high self, god, or guides and teachers has been a method used over the centuries in many cultures. The beneficial results of breath work are tried and true, yet in our somewhat harried way of life it is often ignored or used only infrequently.

I remember years ago when Jose Silva of Silva Mind Control suggested that by using 15 minutes of meditation three times a day all matter of life situations could be changed or manifested with greater ease. That kind of deep meditation cannot happen without physical and mental relaxation. In turn my experience tells me the quickest most effective relaxation is inexorably linked to breath work.

Fortunately I have been offered an effective breathing method that I can confidently pass on to my clients. It is so simple that it might seem unimportant, yet it is both natural and quite logical. As babies you and I took our breaths into our abdomens, using our diaphragms. Sleeping in our cribs our little tummies ballooned up with every breath.

Now as adults many times we breathe in shallow rather ineffective ways. We breathe in a rather staccato shallow way barely using the full capacity available in our lungs. Upper chest breathing does not offer the health benefits that we need.

My suggestion is that each of us spend a few minutes a day, perhaps as little as five minutes, concentrating on drawing air deep into our bodies by way of using our diaphragms. Those five minute practices will stay in our memories for use in the times when we desire stress relief or access to meditation! With any luck it might become our preferred and healthier way of breathing.

Reverend Lois Cheney

 RevLois@gmail.com  (928)300-2030

CONCERN: YES! WORRY: NO!

It is reasonable to “concern” ourselves with situations requiring our attention. It is even better to “consider” possible solutions to improve conditions. It is when we “worry” about every little and big thing that we actually make it worse.

It really is a matter of paying attention to our choice of words. Many times we spend hours worrying on the future, things that may or may not happen. Some of those worries are huge, others not so much.

Unless there is a definite action one can take on these worries, it is useless to continually burden ourselves with them. For instance the presidential election, we worried this one would win and that one wouldn’t. The only thing we could do is vote and urge others to do the same.  Worry whether mental or spoken didn’t solve anything.

On a lighter vein, is it really necessary to “worry” about what we are going to wear to a particular party or celebration? It would seem much more logical to consider how formal or casual the party will be and simply pick an outfit from that conclusion.

Why do I focus on words and phrases? As a clinical hypnotist I know your subconscious mind is listening all the time, 24 hours nonstop. If your subconscious hears “worry” a number of times, it takes you at your word. It believes that worry is what you want. In other words it will give you more things to worry about.

Worry + Worry + Worry = compounded Fear!

Could it be that is what was meant by the old saying: “He is just worrying himself to death”?

After all the eventual result of all this fear filled worrying can be an unpleasant effect in your physical body and emotions. In other words worry can create disease of a variety of kinds.

My suggestion is to pay attention to your words, pay attention to your thoughts. If you catch yourself saying or even thinking detrimental things to yourself or others, back up! Do a reverse. It is easy to phrase things in a much more positive way. For instance instead of saying “I feel sick”, how about “I have felt better and I am healing.” “Sick” creates what you don’t want. “Better” and “healing” give you the desired conditions.

Once you make friends with your subconscious mind by feeding it only positive words, your life will improve. It is a little tricky at first. We all entertain imbedded old patterns. But once you get in the habit of catching and correcting the damaging negative words, it is a fun and certainly beneficial game.

As a certified clinical hypnotist my work is to assist your subconscious and you get on the most positive, life-affirming track possible. Call or e-mail and let’s discuss your challenges and your desires for improvement.

Reverend Lois Cheney cCHT

RevLois@gmail.com (928)300-2030